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My partner may not be perfect but he is perfect for me.  We have grown into a wonderful mutually supportive relationship.  We both have many passions, some of which we share, but we are most passionate about each other.  I am proud of him for so many reasons.  He gives back to the world more than he takes and he loves my children and is completely in love with our grandson.  I am very proud of him. But, getting back to the "not perfect" part, he does do something that really bugs me.   When I point it out, he shrugs and says that it is a family trait and that everyone in his family does that so he is powerless to stop.  He says he doesn't like this trait either but it is out of his control.   I keep pointing out that it is just learned behavior which can be extinguished if he wants.  He says he does want to get rid of this trait, but I think in some way, he feels that he might be betraying his family if he gives up this trait....

I had the most wonderful surprise today.  A love letter and not just a love letter, but the ultimate love letter.  My love put a love letter for me to find in a place where I was sure to find it.  In a spot where I go to several times a day, and I found it.   It was a complete and wonderful surprise and he knocked it out of the park.  Quite frankly, I love my guy more than anything, but, he is a bumbling idiot.  (It`s ok.  He knows.)  So, I really expected to be a little disappointed in the letter but it was wonderful, every word was meaningful and it reduced to me tears.  I`ve read it about 15 times already.   I can`t believe he wrote it, it is so perfect.   Well, he had a confession to make.  He had help.  He went online and researched how to write a great love letter.  He showed me the five pages of tips that he found.  That made me even happier.  Remember when I said he was a bumbling idiot. ...

I think it is important for me to have full disclosure here.  I am engaged to an immigrant and I plan to marry him.   Although I considered that he was just marrying me for citizenship purposes, it turns out that he became a Canadian citizen over 3 decades ago.   Still, he is an immigrant. We are told almost every day that we have much to fear from immigrants.  I actually came across an article today that had some troubling statistics.   It talked about the odds of things happening to you such as being struck by lightning, having a heart attack; being in a car accident; choking; falling and breaking a bone; contracting cancer; and being harmed by an immigrant.  Apparently, the odds of all of the first six put together happening in one day is about half the odds of being harmed by an immigrant. It is almost like they are really coming here searching for a better life and a better future for their families. As far as I know, most immigrants are peop...