Two Random Things
The first random thing was the front page story in both newspapers. Crown corporations are told to tighten up their spending and to make more money. There seemed to be a particular shout out to Manitoba Liquor and Lotteries.
The second random thing happened while we were eating dinner. Out of nowhere, we went from having a superficial conversation about nothing to having a very deep intimate conversation about our relationship. And, we were arguing. But, not arguing. Have you ever had a conversation with someone about something you feel passionate about and you are both arguing the same side but it becomes heated because you are both passionate and want to feel your points are heard. Well, that was how this was going. And, we ended up laughing.
So, then we went out to go to a meeting together and ended up being about half an hour early. There was a little bar next to where our meeting was scheduled. I remembered the story in the newspaper about Manitoba Liquor and Lotteries needing to earn more money. I thought we should do our part so I suggested going to put $20 in a machine.
We were playing this machine and chatting when the guy playing the machine next to us told us how much he enjoyed sitting next to us. What he actually said was "listening to you two is like reading a good book. It is so relaxing. You two have an amazing connection." Wow. What do you say to that? Well, we both responded at the same time, "look at that, we have someone else fooled." He said that he wasn't fooled. He could see a good thing going. We ended up having an amazing conversation with this young stranger. He was 34. He and his girlfriend started when they were both 16. 18 years and three children later and they were going through a rough patch. We talked about our rough patches and how we made it through the other side. He loved his lady very much but communication was strained. He told us more. As we were talking, we told him that he was telling the wrong people his story and he really should be sharing this with his girlfriend. Sounded to us like she needed to hear how much she was cherished. It was a good place to start the communication. We wished him the best and needed to be on our way. We hugged and said our good-byes.
Two random things led to an extraordinary encounter. A perfect stranger giving us validation for our relationship. I gotta tell you, it felt awesome. He didn't have to say a word yet he went out of his way to give us a compliment. And, then, to feel like we actually might have made a positive difference in his life, well, that felt amazing. We were both high on life for the rest of the evening.
The human connection. It is pretty amazing. So often we miss out because we are afraid to talk to people. It is a simple thing. Just say hello to people. They might say hello back and that can lead to an amazing conversation. They also might not say hello back but that is ok. You get enough "hellos" back so that you forget the ones that don't. So many of us are searching for something and sometimes it is easier to talk to strangers because you will never see them again. Just, talk to people. Connect with them. I can't guarantee it will turn into something extraordinary, but, there is always that possibility. We learn self-talk when we are struggling. Positive affirmations to tell ourselves when times are rough. They feel good. Imagine how good a positive affirmation from someone you don't even know can feel. It feels amazing !
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